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Saturday, July 27, 2013
Father forgets ... by W. Livingston Larned
I am saying this as you lie asleep, one little paw crumpled under your cheek and the blond curls stickily wet on you damp forehead. I have stolen into your room alone. Just a few minutes ago, as I sat reading my paper in the library, a stifling wave of remorse swept over me. Guiltily I came to your bedside.
There are the things I was thinking, son : I had been cross to you. I scolded you as you were dressing for school because you gave your face merely a dab with a towel. I took you to task for not cleaning your shoes. I call out angrily when you threw some of your things on the floor.
At breakfast I found fault, too. You spilled things. You gulped down your food. You You put your elbows on the table. You spread butter to thick on your bread.And as you started off to play and I made for my train, you turned and waved a hand and called, "Goodbye, Daddy!" and I frowned, and said in reply, "Hold your shoulders back!"
Then it began all over again in the late afternoon. As I came up the road I spied you, down on your knees, playing marbles. There were holes in your stockings. I humiliated you before your boyfriends by marching you ahead of me to the house. Stockings were expansive-and if you had to buy them you would be more careful! Imagine that son from a father!
Do you remember, later when I was reading in the library, how you came in timidly, with a sort of hurt look in your eyes? When I glanced up over my paper, impatient at the interruption, you hesitated at the door. "What is it you want?" I snapped. You said nothing, but run across in one tempestuous plunge, and threw your arms around my neck and kissed me, and your small arms tightened with an affection that God had set blooming in your heart and which even neglect could not wither. And then you were gone, pattering up the stairs.
Well, son, it was shortly afterwards that my paper slipped from my hands and a terrible sickening fear came over me. What has habit been doing to me? The habit of finding fault, of reprimanding-this was my reward to you for being a boy. IT was not that i did not love you; it was that I expected too much of youth. I was measuring you by the yardstick of my own years. And there was so much that was good and fine and true in your character. The little hard of you was as big as the dawn itself over the wide hills. This was shown by your spontaneous impulse to rush in and kiss me good night. Nothing else matters tonight, son. I have come to your bedside in the darkness, and I have knelt there, ashamed!
It is a feeble atonement; I know you would not understand these things if I told them to you during your waking hours. But tomorrow I will be a real daddy! I will chum with you, and suffer when you suffer, and laugh when you laugh. I will bite my tongue when impatient words come. I will keep saying as if it were a ritual: "He is nothing but a boy-a little boy!"
I am afraid I have visualized you as a man. Yet as I see you now, son, crumpled and weary in your cot, I see that you are still a baby. Yesterday you were in your mother,s arms, your head on her shoulder. I have asked too much, too much.
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Thursday, July 4, 2013
How to get people to do ...
How to get people to do something?
To quote Dale Carnegie in his famous book "How to Win Friends & Influence People" he said ...
Tuesday, June 25, 2013
HOW TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE
Thursday, June 6, 2013
BELIEVE IN YOUR IDEAS
Saturday, April 23, 2011
Who and why ???
Friday, February 11, 2011
11022011
For those who realized it, they made sure it shall be registered somehow on occasion that in years to come, they have a unique date to reflect.
As for me, let go of the past, learn from it and make today a new beginning, enriched others as you would like to be enriched.
May Allah's guidance be with me, as I chart a new beginning.
Insyaallah.
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
11.1.11
If it enrich your perspective so be it.
Monday, January 3, 2011
New Year Wishes ...
Last Day - 2010
Thank you to those who 'loved me' - they made my heart bigger!
Thank you to those who 'hated me' - they made me stronger!
Thank you to those who 'worried about me' - they made me know they cared for me!
Thank you to those who 'left me' - they made me realize nothing last forever!
Thank you to those who 'entered in my life' - they made me who I am today!
Just want to THANK YOU for being in my life, whatever I might have meant to you!
"HAPPY NEW YEAR 2011"
Now how sweet.
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Lia has another week Clinical in Hospital Seberang Jaya, while Tyra's exam is on the 10th of January ... just 7 days away. Good Luck to you all my dearest.
Insyaallah they will do well, and for all of us in the family immediate or extended, we must do our best, because we set our destiny and we shall continue to pray for Allah's blessing and HIDAYAH.
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
Charity begins in China
BEIJING:
"I don't think it's appropriate to talk about any particular individual. There were some gifts that were very generous," Microsoft founder Gates tell the news conference. "As you know there are some people who've come out publicly and talked about (how) they're going to do quite substantial philanthropy," he added saying that two thirds of the people they invited had showed up, or some 50 people.
"We were very impressed. The people we were with last night had ideas about things they wanted to do. They saw the charitable sector at an early stage and were asking about what lesson there might be from the United States," said Gates.
Buffet and Gates are urging American billionaires to give away at least half their wealth during their lifetimes or upon their death by signing the Giving Pledge, which far has 40 members.
Their dinner sparked intense media interest in China, and speculation the two would walk away empty-handed. But they published an open letter ahead of their visit saying they did not intend to force anyone to give up their wealth, writhing that all they wanted to do was share their experiences and listed to Chinese views.
"We did not pressure anyone obviously in China, and we never had intention to," said Buffet, the world's third-richest man and chairman of Berkshire Hathaway. "No one was asked in any way, indirectly or directly to sign up to anything last night. Bill and I will not be calling anybody. What happens in China will depend on how the Chinese people feel about a project of this sort," he added.
The only rich Chinese person they confirmed had attended was movie star Jet Li, whose One Foundation is a partner of the Chinese Red Cross. - Reuters.
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Earlier on September 27, 2010 also in the Sun : Koon's RM30m to go to other causes ...
Philanthropist Koon Yew Yin whose offer to donate RM30 million to UTAR to build hostels at its Kampar campus in Perak was not taken up, has decided to donate the money to other charitable causes, the Chinese Press reported.
He said it had been more than a year since the offer was first made,and since UTAR had no intention to take it up, he would donate the RM30 million, or even more, to other organisations which need the money, including schools, universities, old folk's homes and orphanages.
The founder of three leading development companies - IJM Corporation Bhd, Gamuda Bhd and Mudajaya Group Bhd - held a press conference in Petaling Jaya on Friday to clarify some accusations made against him over the donation offer. He said the claim by UTAR's board of trustees and councils that he wanted to exercise full control over his money was not true.
asked if he would consider extending his offer to UTAR again, he said: "Are you joking?"
Not as easy
Thursday, September 23, 2010
Doing something new ...
Wake up for sahur, 2nd day of "puasa enam hari syawal".
Get the kids for subuh, and effective immediately for Schooling Day, 6am and 6.30am for non schooling day wake up time.
Simple plan to act and insyallah it shall create a better living for all.
Monday, May 17, 2010
being positive ...
Well you gonna hear of this quite often here, because it happen to us always be it we ourselves or others around us. But before we go into it, people gets to be negative much more easier, rather than being positive. In fact it sometimes looks like or sounds like so ridiculous.
At Tesco, a few days back as I looking at a badminton racket, I said to another person who were also looking at one, "time to beat Lin Dan", as that was the day that we lost to China in the Thomas Cup 2010 semi-finals. This is what he said "Jangan harap lah bang" (don't hope for it).
Why does that kind of statement arises. Is it because we really think so, or we were so dissappointed, or we think we are as good as the rest.
As much as we would like to be in total positive thinking attitude, we just need to accept that due to certain reasons beyond our control, no matter how positive you are you can never do it. So what we should do is identify what we can really be the best at and ... DO OUR BEST.
Lets try to identify certain situation with regards to the statement below :-
I am sick - I am not well vs I am healthy - I don't feel so good.
Don't drive fast - Drive slow - Drive carefully.
Lets give it a thought for now.
Friday, May 7, 2010
Ideafactory ... revisited
You are what you let yourself believe, and somehow that is always through. A friend of mind, Hj Ramli Wali likes to say this, "What ever you say or do, you always gets the original, as others around you gets the photocopy".
My beloved wife always remind me of this whenever I get into being upset with certain issues that makes me angry and "the not so nice words and face mimics follow through". She ought to know and has all the right to make that comments considering that she is the one who has to listen to it. Yesterday, Lia was not in a good mood due to a situation that upsets her very much, and being her fathers daughter, it shows on her face, and action and it definately is not pleasing, so I told her that in our family, only me can get angry, and the rest must always smile and be happy. Such and attitude ... eh.
Well, as human as much as I try, taking the easier way out ... we are only human.
Anyway back to the ideafactory, what can we churn out today ? Somethoughts that can get things moving for us specifically, but worthwhile for other as well. Well ... lets us SMILE today and everyday onwards, as they say Smile is free.
until then ... be happy its your choice.
Wednesday, May 5, 2010
Understanding
Burnt Biscuit
Friday, March 12, 2010
Just a little kindness ...
An Excellent Read
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I arrived at the address where someone had requested a taxi. I honked but no one came out. I honked again, nothing. So I walked to the door and knocked. 'Just a minute', answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor.
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After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 90's stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940s movie.
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By her side was a small nylon suitcase. The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets.
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There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware.
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'Would you carry my bag out to the car?' she said. I took the suitcase to the cab, and then returned to assist the woman.
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She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb.
She kept thanking me for my kindness. 'It's nothing', I told her. 'I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother treated'.
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'Oh, you're such a good boy', she said. When we got in the cab, she gave me an address, and then asked, 'Could you drive through downtown?'
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'It's not the shortest way,' I answered quickly.
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'Oh, I don't mind,' she said. 'I'm in no hurry. I'm on my way to a hospice'.
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I looked in the rear-view mirror. Her eyes were glistening. 'I don't have any family left,' she continued. 'The doctor says I don't have very long.' I quietly reached over and shut off the meter.
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'What route would you like me to take?' I asked.
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For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator.
We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds. She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl.
Sometimes she'd ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.
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As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, 'I'm tired. Let's go now'
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We drove in silence to the address she had given me. It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico.
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Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up.. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move. They must have been expecting her.
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I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.
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'How much do I owe you?' she asked, reaching into her purse.
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'Nothing,' I said
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'You have to make a living,' she answered.
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'There are other passengers,' I responded.
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Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held onto me tightly.
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'You gave an old woman a little moment of joy,' she said.
'Thank you.'
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I squeezed her hand, and then walked into the dim morning light. Behind me, a door shut. It was the sound of the closing of a life.
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I didn't pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly lost in thought. For the rest of that day, I could hardly talk. What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to end his shift? What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?
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On a quick review, I don't think that I have done anything more important in my life.
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We're conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments.
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But great moments often catch us unaware-beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.
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PEOPLE MAY NOT REMEMBER EXACTLY WHAT YOU DID, OR WHAT YOU SAID, BUT THEY WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER HOW YOU MADE THEM FEEL.
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
Step by Step ...
A Chinese proverb, if I am not mistaken. Well that sure was the easiest part. Now lets put the normal action plan, i.e DUIT. If you heard this orally, it sounds like DO IT, and some how NIKE has coined it as their catch phrase "Just Do it"
Whatever you do, you shall always stars with a DOA (prayers) and than USAHA (action), not once but continuously and consistently, which means ISTIQAMAH and finally TAWAKKAL (have faith).
If and on if, or better still or the best statement should be WHEN you as a person does the process, you shall reap what you sow. Now what actually you want so badly that you will take the first step of the journey since 11th November 1961 ? More than 48 years ago as the earth circle the sun.
What, Why, When, Who, Where & HOW ???
Thursday, October 1, 2009
Which one comes first ???
Would You Permit Me?
In a country where thinkers are assassinated, and writers
are considered infidels and books are burnt.
In societies that refuse the other, and force silence on mouths and thoughts forbidden, and to question is a sin,
I must beg your pardon, would you permit me?
Would you permit me to bring up my children as I want, and
not to dictate on me your whims and orders?
Would you permit me to teach my children that the religion
is first to God, and not for religious leaders or scholars
or people?
Would you permit me to teach my little one that religion is
about good manners, good behaviour, good conduct, honesty
and truthfulness, before I teach her with which foot to
enter the bathroom or with which hand she should eat?
Would you permit me to teach my daughter that God is about
love, and she can dialogue with Him and ask Him
anything she wants, far away from the teachings of anyone?
Would you permit me not to mention the torture of the grave
to my children, who do not know about death yet?
Would you permit me to teach my daughter the tenets of the
religion and its culture and manners, before I force on her
the 'Hijab' (the veil)?
Would you permit me to tell my young son that hurting
people and degrading them because of their nationality,
colour or religion, is considered a big sin by God?
Would you permit me to tell my daughter to revising her
homework and paying attention to her learning is considered by God as more useful and important than learning by heart Ayahs from the Quran without knowing their meaning?
Would you permit me to teach my son that following the footsteps of the
Honourable Prophet begins with his honesty, loyalty and truthfulness, before his beard or how short his thobe (long shirt/dress) is?
Would you permit me to tell my daughter that her Christian friend is not an infidel, and ask her not to cry fearing her friend will go to Hell?
Would you permit me to argue, that God did not authorize
anyone on earth after the Prophet to speak in his name nor
did he vest any powers in anyone to issue 'deeds of
forgiveness' to people?
Would you permit me to say, that God has forbidden killing
the human spirit, and who kills wrongly a human being is as if he killed all human kind, and no Moslem has the right to frighten another Moslem?
Would you permit me to teach my children that God is greater, more just, and more merciful than all the (religious) scholars on earth combined?
And that his standards are different from the standards of those trading
the religion, and that his accountability is kinder and more merciful?
Would you permit me?
Nizar Kabbani
Syrian Diplomat, Poet, Writer
Being Helpful can be troublesome
State to mom: Stop baby-sitting neighbors' kids
Lisa Snyder, left, watches kids play at their bus stop, which is also her AP – Lisa Snyder, left, watches kids play at their bus stop, which is also her driveway, Friday, Sept. 25, …
By JAMES PRICHARD, Associated Press Writer James Prichard, Associated Press Writer – Tue Sep 29, 7:23 pm ET
IRVING TOWNSHIP, Mich. – Each day before the school bus comes to pick up the neighborhood's children, Lisa Snyder did a favor for three of her fellow moms, welcoming their children into her home for about an hour before they left for school.
Regulators who oversee child care, however, don't see it as charity. Days after the start of the new school year, Snyder received a letter from the Michigan Department of Human Services warning her that if she continued, she'd be violating a law aimed at the operators of unlicensed day care centers.
"I was freaked out. I was blown away," she said. "I got on the phone immediately, called my husband, then I called all the girls" — that is, the mothers whose kids she watches — "every one of them."
Snyder's predicament has led to a debate in Michigan about whether a law that says no one may care for unrelated children in their home for more than four weeks each calendar year unless they are licensed day-care providers needs to be changed. It also has irked parents who say they depend on such friendly offers to help them balance work and family.
On Tuesday, agency Director Ismael Ahmed said good neighbors should be allowed to help each other ensure their children are safe. Gov. Jennifer Granholm instructed Ahmed to work with the state Legislature to change the law, he said.
"Being a good neighbor means helping your neighbors who are in need," Ahmed said in a written statement. "This could be as simple as providing a cup of sugar, monitoring their house while they're on vacation or making sure their children are safe while they wait for the school bus."
Snyder learned that the agency was responding to a neighbor's complaint.
Granholm spokeswoman Liz Boyd said the agency was following standard procedure in its response. "But we feel this (law) really gets in the way of common sense," Boyd said.
"We want to protect kids, but the law needs to be reasonable," she said. "When the governor learned of this, she acted quickly and called the director personally to ask him to intervene."
State Rep. Brian Calley, R-Portland, said he was working to draft legislation that would exempt situations like Snyder's from coverage under Michigan's current day care regulations.
The bill will make it clear that people who aren't in business as day care providers don't need to be licensed, Calley said.
"These are just kids that wait for the bus every morning," he said. "This is not a day care."
Snyder, 35, lives in a rural subdivision in Barry County's Irving Township about 25 miles southeast of Grand Rapids. Her tidy, comfortable three-bedroom home is a designated school bus stop. The three neighbor children she watched — plus Snyder's first-grader, Grace — attend school about six miles away in Middleville.
Snyder said she started watching the other children this school year to help her friends; they often baby-sit for each other during evenings and weekends.
After receiving the state agency's letter, she said she called the agency and tried to explain that she wasn't running a day care center or accepting money from her friends.
Under state law, no one may care for unrelated children in their home for more than four weeks each calendar year unless they are licensed day-care providers. Snyder said she stopped watching the other children immediately after receiving the letter, which was well within the four-week period.
"I've lived in this community for 35 years and everyone I know has done some form of this," said Francie Brummel, 42, who would drop off her second-grade son, Colson, before heading to her job as deputy treasurer of the nearby city of Hastings.
Other moms say they regularly deal with similar situations.
Amy Cowan, 34, of Grosse Pointe Farms, a Detroit suburb, said she often takes turns with her sister, neighbor and friend watching each other's children.
"The worst part of this whole thing, with the state of the economy ... two parents have to work," said Cowan, a corporate sales representative with a 5-year-old son and 11-month-old daughter. "When you throw in the fact that the state is getting involved, it gives women a hard time for going back to work.
"I applaud the lady who takes in her neighbors' kids while they're waiting for the bus. She's enabling her peers to go to work and get a paycheck. The state should be thankful for that."
Amy Maciaszek, 42, of McHenry, Ill., who works in direct sales, said she believes the state agency was "trying to be overprotective."
"I think it does take a village and that's the best way," said Maciaszek, who has a 6-year-old boy and twin 3-year-old daughters. "Unfortunately you do have to be careful about that. These mothers are trying to do the right thing."
Monday, October 20, 2008
UNIVERSE-CITY of YOUTH
GUIDELINES & CATEGORIES
Community : How can we help connect people, build communities and protect unique cultures?
Opportunity : How can we help people better provide for themselves and their families?
Energy : How can we help move the world toward safe, clean, inexpensive energy?
Environment : How can we help promote a cleaner and more sustainable global ecosystem?
Health : How can we help individuals lead longer, healthier lives?
Education : How can we help more people get more access to better education?
Shelter : How can we help ensure that everyone has a safe place to live?
Everything else : Sometimes the best ideas don't fit into any category at all.
CRITERIA :
REACH : How many people would this idea affect?
DEPTH : How deeply are people impacted? How urgent is the need?
ATTAINABILITY : Can this idea be implemented within a year or two?
EFFICIENCY : How simple and cost-effective is your idea?
longevity : How long will the idea's impact last?
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10. What one sentence best describes your ideas? (150 character)
The youth of today is the future for tomorrow, an ideas without boundaries, a centre a Universe-City.
Universe-City of youth a centre for youth today and our future
11. Describe your idea in more depth (300 words)
UCOY is an extention of the already diverse education system world wide with the community of students from all over the world staying together representing each an every country of the world within countries of the United Nation. It is a mobile centre attached to respective universities where it is attached to for a specific duration.
The world today need each an every one to learn HOW to tolerate each other, with the differences of culture, religion, language. Learning to accept that there is reason for such diversity. Brought up in a different environment with different set of rules, believes and guidelines.
UCOY replaces the normal period of study (A Levels, Matriculation or related program) for two years in major cities of East & West (Asia, Europe, Americas), with the age level of 18 and 19 years. They will be offered a UCOY diploma which will be accepted into any other Universities of the world.
On completion,
12. What problem or issue does your idea address (150 words)
Acceptance, respect of each other, ability to agree to disagree, on top of being innovative and creative.
13. If your idea were to become a reality, who would benefit the most and how? (150 words)
Everyone who believes that this world is to share and work together, the youth of today the future generation.
14.What are the initial steps required to get this idea off the ground? (150 words)
A committee will be st up, to deliberate on the best implementation process. Interested youth will then apply through a centre with an essay as to why they should be chosen, and there will be a set of interviews to short list the candidates.
15. Describe the optimal outcome should your idea be selected and successfully implemented. How would you measure it? (150 words)
Graduates of UCOY will be a world citizen who learn to respect themselves and others, Unity in Diversity. They might look different, sounds different live in different areas but will be the catalyst for a new open system of acceptance.