being positive ...

Have you heard of the Positive Negative Syndrome (+- synd).

Well you gonna hear of this quite often here, because it happen to us always be it we ourselves or others around us. But before we go into it, people gets to be negative much more easier, rather than being positive. In fact it sometimes looks like or sounds like so ridiculous.

At Tesco, a few days back as I looking at a badminton racket, I said to another person who were also looking at one, "time to beat Lin Dan", as that was the day that we lost to China in the Thomas Cup 2010 semi-finals. This is what he said "Jangan harap lah bang" (don't hope for it).

Why does that kind of statement arises. Is it because we really think so, or we were so dissappointed, or we think we are as good as the rest.

As much as we would like to be in total positive thinking attitude, we just need to accept that due to certain reasons beyond our control, no matter how positive you are you can never do it. So what we should do is identify what we can really be the best at and ... DO OUR BEST.

Lets try to identify certain situation with regards to the statement below :-

I am sick - I am not well vs I am healthy - I don't feel so good.

Don't drive fast - Drive slow - Drive carefully.

Lets give it a thought for now.

Ideafactory ... revisited

Its been awhile since I took time to write on this issue. Happening around, be it personal, family, the country and or the world takes the best of the thought process and therefore time and again, other things seems to get the priority.

You are what you let yourself believe, and somehow that is always through. A friend of mind, Hj Ramli Wali likes to say this, "What ever you say or do, you always gets the original, as others around you gets the photocopy".

My beloved wife always remind me of this whenever I get into being upset with certain issues that makes me angry and "the not so nice words and face mimics follow through". She ought to know and has all the right to make that comments considering that she is the one who has to listen to it. Yesterday, Lia was not in a good mood due to a situation that upsets her very much, and being her fathers daughter, it shows on her face, and action and it definately is not pleasing, so I told her that in our family, only me can get angry, and the rest must always smile and be happy. Such and attitude ... eh.

Well, as human as much as I try, taking the easier way out ... we are only human.

Anyway back to the ideafactory, what can we churn out today ? Somethoughts that can get things moving for us specifically, but worthwhile for other as well. Well ... lets us SMILE today and everyday onwards, as they say Smile is free.

until then ... be happy its your choice.

Understanding

Another email from one of my dear Brother, lets enjoy this nice story :-



Burnt Biscuit

Mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. And I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work. That evening, mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage and extremely burned biscuits in front of dad.

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I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed. All dad did was reach for his biscuit, smiled at mom and asked me how my day was at school. I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember watching him smear butter and jelly on that biscuit and ate every bite.

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When I got up from the table, I remember hearing mom apologize to dad for burning the biscuits. And I'll never forget what he said: Honey, I love burned biscuits.

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Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and asked him if he really liked his biscuits burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, "Your Momma put in a hard day at work today and she's real tired. And besides - a little burnt biscuit never hurt anyone!" You know, life is full of imperfect things.....and imperfect people. I'm not the best at hardly anything, and I forget birthdays and anniversaries just like everyone else. What I've learned over the years is that learning to accept each others' faults - and choosing to celebrate each others differences - is one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship. Because in the end, you are the master of your own life, to be happy or unhappy, to be positive or negative.

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We could extend this to any relationship. In fact, understanding is the base of any relationship, be it a husband-wife or parent-child or friendship. Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket - keep it in your own.

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So please pass me a biscuit, and yes, the burnt one will do just fine...